Being offended always comes along with realization. If you got offended but failed to realize, better luck next time. Do not feel bad because this usually happens in the first sets of encounter and most of the time, it is the offender who realizes more than the offended one.
This situation happens all the time as everyone interacts with one another. It just so happens that not all can predict what will happen nor can simply assume what someone else is presently thinking. What most people do is take the safe grounds, which is basically being neutral and do not give out their own perspective on a given situation impromptu without hearing or knowing everyone’s opinion. In this sense, insecurity and fear of rejection play around the whole situation. It’s like the power of conformity eats you up and the whole of your judgment world.
Developing your own judgment takes time and experience. It also covers being rejected and laughed at when significant people feel being overlooked by your relevant opinions. That is the hardest part of expressing your own perspective when being involved in an important discussion in the presence of many bodies of authority.
But, how does this kind of trait develop? Is judgment a skill to consider? Judgment is a cognitive skill developed by experience and human interaction. You can also call it a learned skill because you can acquire it when you enter the academic world. These institutions teach you different methods on how you can develop your judgment on each developmental stage you dwell in.
However, there are also certain experiences that may keep you from moving forward to the next stage. This usually happens when an outcome of certain or significant experience tends to have a great impact on the person’s way of looking at it to the extent that he or she may use it on related situations ALL THE TIME. In this phase, the individual is already generalizing all types of situation and use his or her own assumption or prediction on how a situation may go or come around. Forecasting is overruling trial and error and/or skipping the significance of methodology to further gather more helpful aspects in making a decision.
The judgment phase is a very critical stage of a person. It may sometimes eat up the wholeness of the person because it leads to guilt, feelings of regret, more failure, feelings of inadequacies, determination, and perseverance. There is also no one who can claim that they have perfected this stage, not even the judges you see in the trial court. You can only see people who can give advice and share their experience on related cases.