Tanghod is a Tagalog action word that kids do when they are waiting for their parents to come home. They do this while sitting on the porch while waiting for their mom or dad with their hands on their chin. This is also commonly done by teens whenever they see their crush coming by or passing by with both hands on their cheeks. For adults, this is a perfect word to describe eavesdropping in a certain conversation or forum.
People say it’s cute to see kids do this. It absolutely true. Kids doing this are even featured in commercials. It portrays a good description of family ties. Also, it is cute because it’s a way of expressing admiration to a person like your crush. It’s one way for a person to say something about his/her feelings but doesn’t have the guts to say it personally to his/her crush.
However, I hate to say this but the last description is the most despicable of all definitions I have noted. Especially, if this is being done by an adult. An adult who is compulsively doing it and can’t help himself/herself from doing it.
Why is this act so disgusting when done by an adult?
Eavesdropping carries both advantage and disadvantage. Advantage because you’re not being left out. You earn awareness by having an attentive ear, intentionally or unintentionally. However, its biggest disadvantage is when it becomes a rumor and get spread out through rumor mongering. Another negative thing to add is when there are certain conversations or fora holding a specific topic then someone begins to jump in out of nowhere, making all topic participants end up with a blank face because the newly-joined in participant says something that is totally out of the topic.
It is totally unethical for an adult, especially in workplaces. Working people are expected to hold such ethical grounds when handling conversations as well as accidentally running into a forum. It is always best to be invited to join in a conversation instead of gatecrashing a forum and say anything that comes in your mind, without thinking about it.
Sad to say but there are people who act like this and feel that there’s nothing wrong about what they’re doing. Imagine having an office-mate who leans his/her back on full effort just to read an email on your computer from his/her seat. Well, actually It’s not only in the workplace that these people harbor. You can even see them in a commuting scene too. Try to observe people who tries to lean over or extend their visual powers when someone is trying to text or press something on their cellphones. These irritating people try to read or snoop in on whatever that is on your mobile phone. It may not bear anything to other people but you will never know when this kind of act can simply challenge someone else’s patience.
Why does this happen?
There are different reasons behind its cause although you can say that all can be psychological. For the intentional cause, there’s a big personal purpose that is driving a person to eavesdrop. That person may want to learn and be updated about something. It is like a call for awareness. You can also call that as motivation. However, there are uncontrollable acts of eavesdropping. It can be caused by paranoia or it can also be a compulsion.
So how you deal with paranoid and compulsive eavesdropper?
Awareness of the signs and symptoms of paranoia and compulsion is a good step to take. Understanding the afflicted person can be the next step. However, there are inevitable consequences and circumstances when a situation begins to go beyond a person’s control. An ordinary person may not be able to handle it which may lead to isolating the afflicted person even if he/she is still functional. If it may cause mayhem to his/her colleagues, proper actions should take place. There can be unfortunate situations that the afflicted person needs to receive medical intervention and recommendations.
Bottom line here is to choose the best way on how to deal with these kinds of people. Rooting out the answers why people become like these is a long-term procedure to complete and it takes a lot of psychological measuring tools to use because it is not a simple behavior to observe.